Parenting

Ladies, embrace your uniqueness!

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“Our generation is becoming so busy trying to prove that women can do what men can do that women are losing their uniqueness. Women weren’t created to do everything a man can do…. Women were created to do everything a man can’t do.” – Author Unknown
Coming off quite a weekend of illness and craziness in the Thorn household… It can best be summed up by lots of puking, lots of coughing, and lots of boogers. I’m kinda the last man (woman) standing and praying for God’s grace and protection in keeping me healthy… At least until backup (thank you mom and dad) arrives for Thanksgiving.
Was just thinking how easy it is to go to that place of self-pity and frustration when life gets a little overwhelming and then, by God’s grace, reminding myself that it’s little tests like this that produce endurance.

 

It’s amazing how as women and mothers, God gives us opportunities like these to really shine in our roles; because they make us realize we can’t succeed on our OWN but that we MUST rely on Him. I am sitting here in absolute wonder of His faithfulness, the blessing of my amazing husband, and the two little gifts he has entrusted us with! Being a mother is an exalted calling, one in which we were perfectly designed for! Tonight I’m thankful for our uniqueness; our ability to grow, birth, and sustain life; serve and nurture our families, and to LOVE fiercely – despite lack of sleep, food, or energy!
Tonight I’m thinking about all my fellow mamas out there who are in it! Take heart knowing that you were made for this! God chose you, specifically you to be the mother of your child/children and when you feel you are being tested it is only to make you better in that role! Embrace it ladies!

My number one tip when returning to exercise post-pregnancy…

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My amazing mommies and littles at my Mommy & Me Barre class

We interrupt this programming to bring you the cutest pic of babies and beautiful mommies you have ever seen!!! Love these amazing women from my Mommy & Me Barre class who encourage, inspire, and support each other week in and week out!

Even if you can’t get to a Mommy & Me Barre class, there are a few things you should keep in mind when returning to exercise post-pregnancy:

Consult your physician: get the green light from your OB BEFORE returning to exercise, and please, please, please wait at least 6 weeks (minimum) before returning to an exercise “regime.” Ladies, I don’t care how great you feel, your body just underwent major trauma! There is no way you can SAFELY return to exercise days after birth because the muscles of your abdomen, including your transverse abdominus, your rectus abdominus, and pelvic floor – cannot SAFELY support your skeletal structure after birth! Because of the explosion of hormones your body released to allow the bones, joints, and ligaments to soften, widen, and expand (to birth a baby), everything is still soft and pliable… aka more susceptible to injury and slower healing post-delivery. Picture trying to balance a 10 pound dumbbell on a piece of overcooked spaghetti… you feel me???

So do yourselves a favor (and me, please) just take a moment to focus on what’s really important; focus on healing, nurturing, and nourishing your body; focus on connecting with and getting to know your baby – you learn them and they learn you; give yourself permission to love on, and let others love on you; spend your time cuddling, learning what your baby likes and dislikes, how they like to be soothed. And don’t even get me started on learning the art of breastfeeding (that’s another post entirely)!

Moms are superhuman… seriously, y’all amaze me! We can pretty much do ANYTHING! But what I want you to ask yourself is “Why?” and “Should I?”. To whom are your choices truly benefitting… You? Your ego? Your baby? Your family? Your health? Like honestly, let’s stop for a moment and remind ourselves that being “healthy” does not mean fitting into our pre-pregnancy lulu lemon yoga pants or having six pack abs (despite what most other “fitness” accounts say/show you)! Being a “healthy mom” starts from the inside; it starts from your heart, your soul and your mind!

And PS, these are the things I talk about with my clients I coach one-on-one in my monthly support groups for new moms! My next group starts Monday 10/31 and is open to new moms (don’t have to be a first time mom), with babies 3-12 months old. Email me at 📧 jenthornfit@gmail.com if you want to learn more!

LOVE > hate

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My whole world… Why I do what I do. Every decision, every action, every thought, holding them all captive to how it affects these 3 people right here. I find myself just wanting to protect them from the evil and darkness that exists in this world, so much hate, so much anger being spewed left and right and up and down. And it’s so LOUD!
This week I have challenged myself and I’m challenging you too; to be light, be love, show love, to show compassion to someone in need, encourage someone who is different than you, to embrace the fact that while we are all different we are all HUMAN; black, brown, red, white, Christian, Jew, republican, democrat…. we all bleed red.
Guess I’m just feeling so discouraged by the incessant montage of judgements, opinions and attacks on people’s character in the past few weeks. How about instead of posting, slandering, or criticizing someone’s performance or character this week we just lift up another human being??? How about we celebrate someone’s accomplishments, encourage, inspire, and uplift???? Can you imagine if for one day the focus was on spreading LOVE instead of spewing HATE??? I’m doing it, I’m making a choice this week to spread love. I don’t want my kids to grow up in a world where the only thing they hear or experience everyday is hate, darkness, and judgement. Anyone else ready for a change? We have to be it, we are responsible firsthand for what our littles see, hear, and experience. Who is going to make a commitment to spread LOVE this week???

Motherhood and identifying your true calling…

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This is what business meetings in my life look like today… me pumping, one of my amazing mentors breastfeeding… and the two of us dreaming and visioneering!

I remember before I had Ethan, my first, so many people told me “oh get ready, your life is about to change” or “life will never be the same” and some even said, “you are going to have to give up a lot.” Well, what I have found is that motherhood can either make you focus on all the things you “CAN’T” do anymore OR it provides an opportunity for you to focus on what’s truly important – where your true calling lies and what you should really be doing with your life. I will emphasize that this is a choice – if you feel a pull towards one area, but it takes away from your primary callings of wife and mother, it may be time to reevaluate those priorities (read Famous in Heaven and at Home for more on this)! But, if an opportunity comes your way that allows you to honor your primary callings as wife and mother – give it a second look!
It’s true that “your greatest calling in life may not be something you do but someone you raise” – Andy Stanley. I’m so thankful that motherhood taught me this valuable lesson, and I’m so thankful for women like this in my life. Women who not only allow me to make the choice to put my family first but who encourage it and who inspire me to dream big while honoring my priorities at the same time. Two people have been pivotal in teaching this to me and I am truly thankful for both of them, Danielle Haigh and Michelle Myers. Do you have women like this in your life??? If so, make sure you tell them thank you for inspiring and supporting you in this area.
Here’s to all the mamas out there who are leading, serving, and making a difference in the world right where they are! Motherhood doesn’t have to hold us back, in fact it can only make us better; better stewards of our life, our bodies, and our gifts and unique talents! Have a great weekend friends!!!

The greatest act of love, ever…

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Greatest love story ever

I snapped this photo of Ethan and I about 5 minutes before I made a huge mistake; one which could have ended in him getting severely injured or honestly could have killed him. You see, it was the perfect bluebird day, we were rippin’ groomers, he was turning, stopping, rocking the power wedge, smiling ear-to-ear, lots of fist bumps… You get the idea…and then 3 or 4 minutes after I snapped this photo I thought he was ready to go “off harness” (or ski without me pulling him from behind). He followed me so carefully and slowly down the cat walk, stopped on his own several times, then we started going down the ski run.  And then it happened…. Slow motion at first, but then he was gaining speed, gaining speed, passing me and still gaining speed and he was bee-lining it straight down the ski run; not doing any of the things he had been doing the rest of the day up until that point. And I was screaming at him to “stop,” “stop Ethan stop,” “stop!” And he wouldn’t stop and then there were just trees ahead of us and a giant catwalk with a ledge that I knew could potentially launch him into the trees and rocks and whatever else below…and I couldn’t catch him, and I was screaming, and my heart was beating out of my chest, and I finally got close enough that I was contemplating skiing into him to take him out and measuring in my head what would be worse; potential injuries of me taking him out or the alternative, flying off the catwalk into the trees and rock field below.

And then I witnessed a miracle; not two feet from the edge of the catwalk he caught an edge, double ejected and finally stopped.  It was horrible.

Those moments were horrible and even worse is thinking about how this day, that started so perfectly, so beautifully, could have ended so very differently, so very ugly.

Many of you would say “complete #momfail” and yes, yes it was.  But I’m a Christian and I know feelings of guilt are not from the Lord but from the lying mouth of Satan.  God allowed this to happen but you guys, he also allowed the miracle of nothing to happen (to Ethan) because no joke, I witnessed a miracle today.  That’s the only explanation I have – it was a miracle Ethan didn’t go flying off into the abyss today.

So, why am I telling you this story?  Because it’s a love story that I think all parents or anyone who has ever loved anyone else or who knows what it feels like to be willing to lay down their life for another, can relate to. And, I strongly feel that anytime God allows himself to be seen mightily working through events (both good or bad), it’s an opportunity for growth and learning.

Here’s what I learned today, and I figure if I learned something by having my heart literally pop out of my chest, there might be something here for you too:

Moments are important.  You’ve heard this before but your life, the lives of those you love can change in an instant.  Heaven forbid those moments take a turn for the worse because of a decision you made, like the poor decision I made today.

Pride is dangerous.  Most of us have heard all the things love isn’t, and love is definitely NOT proud!  I was not loving Ethan when I put my pride in his ability to ski today; I wanted to show off his “skills” to make his daddy and our friends proud of him, just as I was.  It is horribly shameful to admit this but I must: my pride could have cost all of us a lot today.

Finally, the most important lesson I learned today was about love and sacrifice.  When I was skiing down that mountain chasing after Ethan, my arms flailing, my adrenaline rushing, every possible good and bad scenario flashing through my mind, the most powerful thought was that I would do anything to save him.  I was desperate for anything to enter my mind that would allow me to save him; something to throw at him to steer him off course, some part of his body to grab onto, questioning if I should run into his skis to stop him, or throw myself on him to stop him.  I had nothing.  I could do nothing to help him, to save him.

I spent a lot of time yesterday reflecting on the incident.  Earlier that morning we had attended church for Palm Sunday and the image of Jesus riding the donkey into Jerusalem right before he was crucified entered my mind.  And then it hit me; there I was struggling and wanting to so badly do anything in my power to stop Ethan, to save him from the pain he most likely would endure if he went off the ledge, and I had nothing; I had no power, I could do nothing.  I wonder how God felt knowing that he had all the power, in all of the universe, incomprehensible power, and could have easily breathed the words, or just even thought them, to save his son Jesus from being crucified on the cross.  God had all the power in the world and used restraint so that those who believe in him shall have eternal life, but he sacrificed his one and only son so that we may have life.  I had nothing, no power to save Ethan yet would have given up everything to save him in that moment.  It is staggering to think he had all the knowledge and the power in universe to save his child but did not.  Instead he sacrificed his one and only child for the benefit of others.

So today as we go into Easter week, I want you to meditate on these thoughts.  How hard it must have been for God to let his child enter into Jerusalem, knowing the fate that would beget him; knowing that he could save him yet didn’t/wouldn’t for the benefit of mankind.  Think about the sacrifice, the pain. And then, if you have ever been a parent, try to imagine the heartbreak of having to watch your own flesh and blood be tortured and then nailed to the cross, and have the control to sit there, silently upon your hands, and just watch.  This is the sacrifice God made when extended hope to mankind, he was willing to endure that pain just as his son Jesus was willing to endure it on the cross, so that we may have life.

Hug your babies a little tighter tonight when you tuck them in and remember this: life can change in a moment, love is not proud, the greatest sacrifice anyone has ever made is God sending his only son, his son who had lived a perfect life, to die a criminal’s death; the death we all deserve in our imperfectness but by grace alone are we saved from.

xo

Jen